On Decision Counseling
Most couples in crisis aren’t looking for more opinions.
They’re looking for clarity.
On Decision Couples Counseling exists for the couples who are stuck in the painful in-between. The uncomfortable and grey area of loving each other and exhausted by each other, not sure whether to fight for the marriage or finally let it go. That place of ambivalence is real. It is hard. And it is exactly where I do my best work.
Every struggling couple faces the same three choices: Yea. Nay. Or Delay.
Stay and fight for it.
End it well.
Wait until the timing is right to move forward.
There is no wrong answer. Only the one that’s right for you, made from a place of genuine clarity rather than crisis and exhaustion.
I believe most troubled marriages can be saved. I also believe that whatever you decide, you deserve to make that decision with confidence rather than look back years later with regrets or wondering if you tried hard enough.
I know this territory personally, not just professionally.
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The Three Choices
Every struggling couple faces the same fundamental decision.
There are only three possible paths forward. Each one is valid. Each has merit.
But which one is right for you and your unique situation?
Yea - Fight For It.
You choose to stay and commit fully to rebuilding your marriage with intention, honesty, and real effort. At lease for a specific amount of time. Often six months.
Nay - End It Well.
You choose to close this chapter as thoughtfully and gracefully as possible. For the both of you.
Delay - Not Yet.
You choose to pause the decision until the timing, circumstances, or clarity makes moving forward possible. There are many sound reasons to do this.
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Let’s Work Together
If you’ve landed here, something brought you.
Whatever brought you here, you don’t have to figure it out alone. I work with couples and individuals who are ready to get honest, get clear, and move forward with intention.
Not perfectly.
Not painlessly.
But forward.
The first step is a conversation. It’s complimentary. It’s confidential. And it could be the most important twenty minutes you invest in your relationship this year.
It is better to have a tough conversation than a tough situation.
And that begins now.
Happy Clients
I felt like Kimberly was neutral and sincerely wanted was best for our marriage. My wife and I had been to a therapist before and the therapist kept telling me I was wrong and I didn’t feel like the therapist really listened. Kimberly taught us how to really listen and hear each other. So we both feel like as Kimberly says we are “rowing together”. We had never rowed together before.
Working with Kimberly taught us how to work out our conflicts in a healthy way and how to talk about our hurt feelings and unmet needs. I wish that I had found her years ago because it would have saved us so much heartache and prevented arguments.
Your content goes here. I had already filed for divorce when I heard Kimberly give a talk. She inspired me to be 100% clear about what I wanted before we finalized. I scheduled an appointment and I knew that I was in good hands from the first time we talked. Three months later we stopped the divorce and moved back in together. It was hard work, and there have been lots of tears, but we are happier than we ever were before.
What we appreciated most in working with Kimberly is how adept at getting to the root of the problem, while never shaming either of us for not knowing better. I welcomed the “homework” she gave us. It kept us focused and gave us a chance to put into practice new skills between sessions. We will forever use our “daily 3 questions” and make time for dates.
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